Posts Tagged ‘education’

America’s Children Potential

My number one reason why I want to be a teacher is because I love kids. Absolutely, genuinely, whole heartedly love them. But there are other reasons of course. One major one is that I believe in order to produce education that is going to contribute to our society and democracy later, we must teach tolerance, love, and cultural acceptance at a young age. Intolerance and fear iswhat caused our country set backs in the past that are unfortunately still here today.

Instead of Anglo Saxon Americans just admitting that they had superior power in the past over the Black Americans for example, we had to make evidence up that we were a superior race. (Anglos’ skulls measured larger than blacks…must mean they are dumber? Come on. Race is completely man made.) All of a sudden the belief was that Blacks were an inferior race, therefore that was reason to enslave them. We couldn’t just admit that we had power, authority and the need for human labor…we had to make them lower than us. So what happened then after the slaves were free? Prejudice. Then it didn’t stop at Blacks; Americans wanted to assimilate and conform the Natives who were “savages,” then we put a ban on Asian immigrants because they were inferior. This prejudice applies to everything…or I should say, everyone. Some how we have become a country that believes one can be superior than another. Straights are better than gays. Men are better than women. The rich are better than the poor.

Please don’t get me wrong. I am so not bashing America. I love my country. We are a country that has good, very good, intentions. We promote freedom and have given everyone in the world the opportunity to pursue their dreams. We have so much to offer and we contribute to the rest of the world. I am a proud American, but that doesn’t change the past. The past is something to be shameful about, however we cannot undue the past…just move ahead and do better for the future.

Because of our past, our present is filled with prejudice, racism, intolerance, inequality, hate, and fear. This is no way for our children to grow up. It’s in our hands to fix the future. This doesn’t just apply to teachers, but to everyone…aunts, uncles, moms, dads, grandparents…we need to teach the kids of today to grow up open minded, tolerant, loving and compassionate.

Why? Why not? Children are constantly teased for being different, whether it is of their race, ethnicity, culture, weight, height, voice, opinions, dress, sexual orientation, social class…the list goes on and on. Why not stop the teasing in it’s tracks? Kids will be kids and teasing will never die, but could we at least try to teach our kids the concept of acceptance? Some people may say this is just a right of passage and that all children go through it however, there are teenagers committing suicide daily because of bullying, fear, depression from societal expectations, and rejection from peers.

I hope being an educator I can promote a classroom that is safe, loving, and open minded where I can have my students appreciate each other and welcome each other’s differences. I just wish these teachings and attitudes could go further than the classroom and reach the streets, homes, and lives of all children.

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Good morning! How about a cup of WTF.

Sundays are usually fundays for me. I usually don’t spend them trying to defend myself from personal attacks on my self esteem and decisions but I guess there’s a time in life for everything. Yesterday I had the pleasure of seeing two of my aunts, one that I haven’t seen for a good amount of years. It all started off the same, “Oh how are you?” “What have you been up to?” blah blah blah. Then my Aunt M asked “So where are you working?”

“Oh I nanny right now!” I answered happily.
Pause. “What do you mean?” She asked me. WTF do you mean what do I mean?
“I take care of babies and kids.” I explained feeling completely stupid for having to explain the obvious.
Another pause. This one longer. “So you take care of babies.” She didn’t really ask, she just paraphrased.
“Yes.” I answered with one strong nod. WTF.
“Are you expecting?” Was the next question.
“No?” I answered. WTF!

Within 5 minutes of our lovely conversation I was already irritated, insulted and offended. First off, what the hell is wrong with being a nanny? I’ve never been happier. I have worked in corporations, managed stores and offices and had people working under me, and never was I as happy as I am now, being with kids. I love my job. Who the hell is to make me feel as if my job isn’t worthy?

Secondly, what the hell does she mean by asking me if I am expecting? So if I was prepping for the birth of my own child it would be acceptable to take care of other people’s children? Or was it that if I was expecting, then I couldn’t get another job? I have no idea what she meant, and now reflecting back I wish I had asked her what the **** she meant!

“Well, I’m in grad school going for my Masters, so nannying gives me a lot of time to do my homework.” I instantly regretted saying this. I shouldn’t have to defend my job. There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s my decision. But it was too late.

“Ooohh okay! Well that makes sense.” She sighed in relief. WTF. Again, I was offended. “Besides you have a husband who can support you.”

WTF!!!!!!!! No offense to my husband, who I love very very dearly and respect, but I don’t need anyone to support me lady! I have been on my own ever since I graduated high school, I’ve always worked full time, went to school full time, paid my own tuition, paid my bills, bought my own car, paid for the roof over my head, etc. etc. WTF. No one supports me. My husband and I are equals. I didn’t want to start a war, or embarrass my husband so I kept my mouth shut but I was fuming. Fuming!

I spent the rest of the day ignoring the fact that I was insulted but late last night I could not stop thinking about it. What is wrong with my family? If my family is representing society than what the hell is wrong with society? I have a degree, but one doesn’t only go to school for a degree. What about the social aspect? The knowledge? The joy of learning and having furthered your education? Besides even with my degree, I am still me, and I can decide what career makes me happy. What the hell is wrong with my decision? And would I have had the same, or worse reaction if I was a stay at home mom? For a country who has been pushing women to stand up for themselves, and to make their own decisions….why are we judging people who take the traditional route? I am not stupid because I choose to watch children for a living. I graduated top of my class in my Business major. I was, and could still be a kick ass manager. I want to watch kids. I want to nurture them, educate them and influence them. I want to be there for them and help them grow in this world as best as they can. What the F is wrong with that? I don’t even know what my Aunt would have said if I told her I was going for my Masters to eventually teach elementary children!

Our country likes to shake their fingers at the women who left their children to pursue a career instead. However we are the same country that is shaking their fingers at the women who decide to stay at home and not pursue a career. So what is this? A lose-lose situation? To each woman their own damnit! And now. Onto “my husband supporting me.” Yes, he supports me. Emotionally! Mentally! But I do not depend on him for anything financially. How dare anyone say that to me. And how dare they automatically think the husband is the breadwinner. And how insulting that they automatically think my job means I make less money. I make good money assholes. Better than I ever made before.

Grrr. Yesterday was a hard obstacle for me, but in the end I know that it comes down to what I want and what I do. No one should be able to make me doubt that. However, it sure makes me wish people weren’t so judgmental.